Taking a Closer Look at Relationships - Why Love Matters
Why is love important in society? Love is powerful. It can transcend many odds. Love is healing, love is kind, and love is patient. Love gets us through difficult times. Another person's love can help us find love for ourselves that we either never had or lost somewhere along the way. This is why love matters.
We're social creatures who can't exist in isolation. This is why love is important in society. Love binds us together. It can also tear us apart. But the right kind of love, unconditional and true, can get us through anything. It can be a source of light when all other lights have gone out.
For people who have experienced trauma, love is a lifeline. Love from a partner, a family member, or a friend can mean the difference between suffering in silence and healing out loud. Love is powerful and necessary. It's important, no matter whether you're healing from trauma or not, to take a close look at your relationships and reflect on why love matters.
Why Is Love Important In Society?
The world would be a much more peaceful place if everyone acted out of love instead of hate or anger. Love matters because in a societal context, humans need one another. Different types of relationships fulfil different areas of our lives. This is how it's supposed to be. We need friendships, romantic relationships, and familial relationships in order to have a well-balanced support system full of people who love us.
Why is love important in society? Without love, the world would be a dismal place. And full of people in pain. Love lifts us up. It teaches us to be kind to ourselves. It helps us find the good in ourselves and love ourselves in turn.
A society cannot exist without love. Otherwise, we'd be looking at an apocalyptic situation. If love didn't exist, no one would care how their actions impacted others. War would be a constant, fueled by hate and misunderstandings. There would be nothing to hold us together or stop the hate.
When it comes to healing from trauma, love is essential. Love is powerful. It can help us get through those extremely difficult times when it feels like there's no way out of the darkness. When we're in distress, love is there to comfort us and help us heal.
Why Love Matters
Love matters more than anything because without it we'd be lost. Our relationships are the most important things in our lives. Without healthy, loving relationships with friends, romantic partners, and family members, we'd have no lifeline when things get hard.
Here's an example of why love matters. A woman, we'll call her Cara, is a survivor of sexual assault and a psychologically abusive romantic relationship. After the abuse, she was diagnosed with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Cara had flashbacks, nightmares, and began dissociating from the world. Through it all, her family's love helped her get by one day at a time. A year later when she entered into a romantic relationship with her now-husband, his love carried her through painful, distressing experiences that brought up past trauma.
Had Cara not experienced the love of her family and husband, she may not have healed the way she did. Now Cara is able to have sex without flashbacks and feels safe in her own home. Her husband's love showed her that she wasn't broken and that she deserved to be treated well and loved. This is why love matters for people who are healing from trauma.
Love matters to everyone, but especially to survivors of trauma. Traumatic experiences can leave the survivor feeling lost, ashamed, guilty, afraid, and in tremendous emotional pain.
A parent's love for their child who lost themselves to substance abuse can be the difference between continuing to use and getting sober. A friend's love during hard times can make a person who has been rejected by others in the past feel seen and cared for. A romantic partner's love can restore a person's faith in themselves.
Whatever the type of love, the important thing is to recognize why love matters. It's truly the thing that ties us all together. The world would be a safer, more just place if everyone acted out of a place of love.
Ways That Love Is Powerful
There are many ways that love is powerful. If we revisit Cara and her trauma, we see that love, real love, saved her from darkness and self-hatred. Once she began to trust the love from her family, partner, and friends, she stopped thinking she was broken. Her dissociative episodes stopped. The nightmares and flashbacks decreased and, over time, all but disappeared.
Love saved her from her trauma. It didn't make it go away, but it helped her heal and get through the difficult days, hours, and minutes that people who experience trauma struggle to fight through.
The power of love (cue Celine Dion) is like nothing else in this world. It's what carries us through the most difficult times. I invite you to take a closer look at your relationships. What do you notice about the love you both give and receive from the people in your life? We should all take more time to appreciate the love in our life.
Love is also powerful because literally one person's love can make a huge difference. Take a man, we'll call him Jake, who was homeless for 10 years. He was addicted to heroin and used both drugs and alcohol to numb the pain of his circumstances. He was completely isolated from his friends and family and became suicidal.
Jake felt alone and unloved and could easily have taken his own life had he not overdosed, been found and brought to the hospital, and reconnected with his sister during his stay. She, despite all that had happened during those last 10 years, became a beacon of love and hope for him when he felt that no one cared. That love and support continued when he started going to Narcotics Anonymous (NA). He experienced love and compassion from his peers and sponsor and felt less alone. Because Jake was able to accept love from his sister, he was more easily ready to feel it from his peers.
This is why love matters. For people like Jake and Cara who went through horrible, traumatic events over prolonged periods of time and found healing in the love of family, friends, and partners.
If you have experienced trauma, felt alone and devoid of love, and haven't found the right sort of therapy to process what happened, we at Taproot Psychology are here to help. We offer both talking therapy and EMDR therapy for trauma. Contact us to set up a free consultation to see how trauma therapy at Taproot Psychology could be right for you. We'll help you see exactly why love matters to you and your healing process.